Tuesday, April 22, 2014

No-Nonsense Chayaisms...Learning...Letting go...Loneliness


I am a learning person. Every day is a new chapter with a lesson to learn. It is never too late to learn. I got My Masters Degree after my two children were born and Law degree when my granddaughter appeared. Started learning classical vocal music at 46 …Driving at 60 …Mandolin at 64  and now at 67, learning to play Golf. Learning is fun….not just from books but from everything around us. I am constantly looking for knowledge…talking to people..observing others…reading books..watching TV..  attending seminars, lectures..listening to discourses…it is exhilarating. I also believe in sharing my knowledge so write books ,deliver lectures and conduct training programmes.Teaching is as much fun as learning as one has to be humble to learn- to teach. It is important to keep your eyes. ears and above all…mind, to be an avid learner. And the learning process completes when you implement what you learn!

 Letting Go
It is the most difficult thing to do..letting go. It is called reverse pregnancy when you have psychological contractions.As parents we tend to breathe down the child’s neck always insisting we know best. It is easier said than done to watch their  so called mistakes and resist the  temptation to say ‘I told you so’. It is near impossible to let go of our emotions like hate and bitterness, just as it is to let go of memories that hurt. But if we can, that is the greatest victory. How wonderful if we can let go of the junk we accumulate over the years. I know many old people who surround themselves with collectibles collecting dust…just because they cannot let go of their attachment to material things. If only they could let go and give it to those who need them and enjoy them. If you don’t use something, it is better to give it to someone who has more use for it. It is just like breathing…you can breathe in and hold it but for how long? It can stifle you. You have to let go and breathe out! What a relief. So let go of control mania…constricting emotions…attachment to people and things to the extent it clouds your thinking..it is as relaxing as breathing out!

Maybe everybody in the whole damn world is scared of each other…which is why perhaps loneliness is the worst sickness people suffer from. You can be in roomful of folks and still feel lonely. It could be due to lack of self esteem or blown up image of oneself. It could be a phase you are going through, dealing with some inner conflicts and you don’t find anyone you can relate to. Whatever the reason, it is self generated! Having habits like reading/listening to music/volunteering at orphanages or old ager homes…these are some of the ways one can overcome loneliness. Those who are wedded to their work, try to find solace in that but it is not a solution. Neither is alcohol!! Loneliness can be converted to peaceful solitude by being comfortable in oneself and You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.