There is the
story of a young criminal sentenced to death. As his last wish, he wanted to
meet his mother. The jailer brought her and the criminal slapped her on her
cheek. The jailer was taken aback and wanted to know why he did that and he
answered, ’If she had done this to me long ago, I would not have ended this way’.
I am a regular follower of different Soaps on TV, not as entertainment but more
as a form of edutainment. What we see
there is not the figment of the imagination of those who churn them out day
after day. They look around them and
find the inspiration from life. The next series of my blog are about the role
of mother/father in the mental grooming of the child and the impact it has on
the entire life of the child.
Will start
with the popular Pihu of ‘bade ache…”.Pihu is the prototype of a spoilt child
who has her parents eating out of her hand.
Right from her diet consisting of chocolates and aloo paratha, she not only gets her way but is also pampered with
it. Her conversation is very precocious
and the parents are very proud of it. She
grows up as a willful girl who has to just demand and it is there on a platter. This encourages her to be very manipulative
among her peers and with the family. She
goes to the extent of accusing her school fellow of trying to rape her while
actually she was caught in his arms willing.
Her mother Priya believes her story because she ‘wants to, lest her own
reputation as mother will be at stake!! This whole charade leads to the suicide
of the innocent boy and Priya keeps her husband out of all this, wanting to
handle it herself!! When there is no
team work between husband and wife, it results in situations that only one
parent will not be able to sort out and the child takes advantage of it!
Pihu was the
pivot around which every activity in the family is planned, including her engagement
to her childhood friend of the family who is in love with another girl. Pihu is very adamant about ‘having’ Sammy for
her husband despite his love for another girl. She is only after him to prove
her point-that Pihu gets what Pihu wants and her totally besotted father agrees
to ‘get’ her man for her like he is some object to possess! The brat is now
totally in charge of her parents. The mother,
who was initially responsible for spoiling her, now tries to do the right thing
for the wronged girl, Sammy’s love who is now pregnant with his child. Pihu does not care…she is too used to having
her way, thanks to her indulgent father and righteous but weak mother. She
demands that her father choose between her and Priya who is against the
marriage! Priya willingly walks out of the house, not wanting to make it difficult
for her husband to chose. She is as
blinded by love for her husband as she has been for her daughter!
History repeats
itself!! In the Mahabharatha, Gandhari
willingly blindfolded herself and remained blind to the faults of her sons, thus
losing all of them. There is a better
way of showing love to children than succumbing to every demand of theirs.Short term gratification results in long term mortification!!
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