1 Dating:
A
popular way of finding a life partner in the west, dating – is not very welcome
in Indian society, even there! Indian parents in US safeguard their children
from dating by keeping them busy attending Dance/Music/Karate classes. Gone
about the right way, dating can be a good way of helping boys and girls
understand the dynamics of man/woman relationships.
There
are different categories of dating –
§ Fun – to just go
in a group to a Disco and dance or to a picnic.
§ Cheap – to have
physical thrill
§ Serious – to
check out if suited to be life partners
§ Blind – to have
an adventurous evening with a strange
The
safest is the first kind and getting popular in India too, at least in big
cities. If it extends to the other kinds, it can be dangerous unless the two
involved are mature and know their limits. For those progressive enough to go
on a date, here are some tips:
§ Make sure you
know the boy/girl well
§ Keep parents
informed of where you are going
§ Never have
alcohol or drugs on a date
§ Avoid going to
lonely places
§ Stick to
restaurants/theatres/clubs
§ Remember-dating
is to have wholesome fun
2 Death:
‘If death is the end of life, Why
should life all labour be? – questions a poet. But then, one cannot
just let life go by because one has to die someday! Between life and death,
there is a time given to us and it is up to each individual to make good or bad
use of it. There are many aspects to death and one can write a whole treatise
on it. I will deal with only one-why is there so much tamasha made to see off the departed soul? The ceremonies that
follow are elaborate and ritualistic, none of it making any sense to those who
have to perform them. All this takes so much time and effort that the bereaved
have no space to even mourn in private. It is more important to have a loving
and warm relationship during ones lifetime than inviting all and sundry to
partake a lavish meal, supposedly to appease the wandering soul to rest. The
best way to commemorate the dead is to donate their eyes, and other organs that
will help medical studies, institute a scholarship or award and feed the poor
and needy.
Unless
it is due to a chemical imbalance, depression can be overcome by having the
right attitude to whatever causes that. The best antidote to depression is
activity. A new review of psychological research shows that exercise is an
effective but underused treatment for mild to moderate depression. When you
know more about what is wrong-you can make it right. Every happening has a
cause and so too depression. It could be loss of job, loss of a loved one, loss
of money in business... different people feel depressed for different reasons.
Just as you can dwell on the negatives and feel depressed, you can switch your
thoughts to the positive and feel happy. It is a matter of perspective. I will
illustrate this with my experience and rest my case. As a senior executive in a
Public Sector Undertaking, I was dismissed from my job on a false and frivolous
charges. It happened at the peak of my career and dealt a tremendous blow to my
image in society. I had two choices-to feel depressed and lick my wounds or
bounce back and find something to put my energy into. I did the latter. I
founded Guild of Women Achievers- a voluntary organization to form a support
group for women who go through similar traumas in life and help them cope with
it. I turned a negative situation into a constructive one and today, am able to
reach out to women to spread the message – you can decide to be happy or
depressed. Make your choice. Next time you feel depressed, go to a voluntary
organization and volunteer your service. Doing a good deed is one way of
overcoming depression. The best way is to laugh… read a joke book everyday and
keep that funny bone alive!
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